Parenting Secrets: Easy Ways on Raising an Introvert

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Raising an Introvert in an Extroverted World

Brothers Lance and Levi, ages 8 and 6, live in the northernmost urban area in California and attend the same grade school. Levi, the younger brother, spends most of his weekend playing with kids around the neighborhood, visiting friends in their homes, and generally likes being surrounded with fellow children. While Levi is busy interacting with other kids, Lance, on the other hand, is contented with watching cartoon shows, playing video games by himself and reading books in the quiet nook of the house’s mini library.

This scenario sounds pretty normal in some households, having one child who is less active than the other. Most often, parents disregard the differences of their children’s personality while silently hoping that they will grow out of it as they get older. However, it is different in Lance case. Does Lance have less energy to burn than Levi or has introversion already come to play?

Although it sounds wrong to create stereotypes, it is important to be educated about different children personality traits. Knowing your child’s behavior could lead to positive parenting, and would help prevent making the child feel uncomfortable or distressed. Truth is, introverted and extroverted brains are wired differently.

Lance, being more of an introvert, draws his energy by focusing inside himself, and is quiet in large social settings. On the other hand, Levi, being the more outgoing child, draws energy from the social interactions from people around him. Levi is clearly an extrovert and learns best through talking and doesn’t mind being part of a larger group. However, parents should take note that extroverts get into more trouble by doing little things like whispering during class discussions or poking their seatmates.


Raising an Introvert in an Extroverted World
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There is certainly nothing wrong with a child having either of the personalities. Extroversion and introversion are as normal as a person’s eye color, hair texture, and body structure. Changing your child’s personality is not an option here. As a parent, it is important to know where your kid’s personality falls into in order to handle each behavior accordingly. If introverted children are not understood or handled correctly, it could possibility create a personality disorder.

What is an introvert personality?

Introverts usually prefer to be alone, engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing or watching television. In school, introverts learn best in one-on-one discussions. They choose their activities well and observe new situations before plunging into new undertakings.

Many introverted children see their homes as their haven. They don’t want to have plenty of friends over and would rather have some quiet time alone or with their family.

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How to nurture your introvert?

Introvert and shy are often regarded as mutually exclusive terms, but note that these are not the same thing! Introverts are not necessarily shy. Usually, they have good social skills and enjoy people, but just in smaller doses and smaller groups.

In order to keep your child a happy introvert, don’t overwhelm them with too many new people and new things. Note that they need time to warm up by observing first in new situations. As much as possible, determine which situations put them at ease, and what tenses them up. However, the downside of having an introverted child is that they might not speak up when they’re uncomfortable, so it’s important to be able to know them well.

Also, when you have a withdrawn child, it is particularly important to point out when they overcame something that they were scared to do. This will help them keep track of their own development.

What are the suitable activities for introverts?

Since introverts become emotionally and physically worn out from being around people for a long time, it is vital to know how to deal with an introvert child. Provide the right activities. Choose the ones that will enhance their reflective skill while keeping their personal space. Appropriate activities are creative writing, poetry, painting, reading, drawing, puzzles, computers, building things, and imaginary play.

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The tricky thing about parenting a timid child is that you know that they would have to leave the house one day and be around people. That is why, as a parent, you need to establish a strong support group for your child.

There is a need to educate the child about the benefits of their personality type, and that the parent should also be aware that they are raising a gifted child. An introvert needs to be taught that reflection is a good quality, and that the most creative individual sought solitude. When properly brought up, introverts can be very intelligent people because they have a rich imagination and prefer reflection to activity. Many successful leaders today and throughout history are and were introverts, like Bill Gates, Emma Watson, and Abraham Lincoln.

It is important to let an introvert feel accepted as who they are. The feeling of rejection and unacceptance from the parents would deeply hurt any child. Embrace their personality, and remember what Dr. Seuss once said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

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